What Is Court Ordered Mediation Explained by Los Angeles Child Custody Lawyer David Pisarra
Do you want to know what court ordered mediation is? let me help you out. My name is David Pisarra. I’m with MensFamilylaw we represent noncustodial parents mostly fathers in child custody cases. Once a Child Custody case is opened, and whether that happens through a divorce or a paternity case, isn’t really the matter but a request for orders has been filed, meaning somebody has gone to court and is asking the judge to change the orders for visitation, and custody of the child. The first thing that happens is court ordered conciliation court date is set. That’s basically mediation with a social worker. Mother and father are brought in. Usually they meet separately with the social worker whose job it is to.
Try and bring the parties to a mutual agreement on as many issues as possible before they go see the judge. Oftentimes they will meet with the custodial parent first, frequently that’s mom, then they’ll meet with dad and they”ll go through the list of the days they are trying to get together. Whether it’s weekend visitations, midweek visitations. Sometimes it’s holidays, how are we going to divvy up the Christmas Holiday and the Spring Break Holiday and Summer Holiday. But it’s a free process and most counties require it prior to going to see the judge. Usually it’s held the day of the hearing in the morning and then there’s an afternoon session with the judge. Or in busy counties like Los Angeles.
County, sometimes you’ll have your conciliation court date, which is the mediation earlier. You could have that two, three four sometimes weeks before your actual hearing date and then you go in and see the judge on those issues you couldn’t agree on. Feel free to check out the rest of the website, watch the other tutorials, please read my books and remember a cheeseburger and a chocolate shake will get you through just about everything.
Difficult Personalities in a Child Custody Case Los Angeles Child Custody Attorney David Pisarra
Hey Guys David Pisarra here with MensFamilyLaw . Have you got a personality disordered spouse? Is that what we’re dealing with in a a child custody case? Listen up and let’s see what you’ve got. There’s three main problem personality types we deal with in divorce and child custody cases. There’s a manicdepressive and they kinda have an up down problem. they go from being really happy to really sad to really happy to really sad. They’re not that big of a deal when it comes to child custody, then we’ve got the narcissistic. the narcissistic personality is somebody who its all about them. No matter what you’re doing it’s about.
How it affects them. No matter what you’re saying, it’s how they look. No matter what you’re doing, it’s how they’re going to feel. The third most dangerous one that we deal with is the borderline personality. This is somebody that looks at you and in the beginning part of your relationship you probably were the prince charming, you probably were the best thing that ever happened. The most wonderful boyfriend, the most fantastic husband. and along came a child and the focus shifted and when the focus shifted, you suddenly became worthless, useless, the worst thing ever, horrible, the meanest, most inconsiderate, thoughtless, terrible, negligent, incompetent parent of all time. That’s the borderline.
Personality. You’re going from one extreme to the other. You go from Oh My God you’re the best thing ever to, horrible horrendous, terrible parent. The problem that we deal with is, Narcissistic and Borderline personalities can’t really be cured. and they’re very difficult to deal with when we get into court because they’re usually very convincing. They’re very manipulative. They’re very good at making the judge feel like quot;Well they’re just the most concerned parent ever, and you clearly are just a negligent human being.quot; So when we’re dealing with these as parties in a divorce, we frequently have to bring in a psychologist to try and explain what’s going on and we put each side through some testing to figure.
Out what’s really going on and with the personalities and who’s going to be the more stable and loving parent. And who’s really telling the truth. Because oftentimes the really controlling manipulative person is able to spin things so that it looks like you are the one that’s wrong. Even though they are the ones who are at fault. I hope that gives you a sort of a brief overview of what we’re dealing with here with the manic depressive personality, the narcissistic personality and the borderline. I’m not psychologist, so you probably gotta do some research on that but those are generally what we end up in family court, and those are the battles that we have to fight. If you’ve got other questions, you want to talk.
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