Dear Mom and Dad, I know that you are hurting.I’m hurting, too. I feel and feed off your tension, fear and shock. Although I’m young and cannot express verbally what is happening in our lives, I’m still feeling the impact. My heart is broken every time I have to give up a parent. My sense of security is lost. Please don’t assume that I am resilient. Please don’t assume that my life will be exactly as it was and that I will continue to feel the same love from both of you. I am a human being just like you. My needs are just like yours. I need love, attention, nurturing, stability, consistency, affection, understanding, patience
and mostly to be wanted. When you fight over me or put me in the middle of your argument, you are sending me the message thatwinning with each other is more important than my life. I am learning from you thatis better to be right than to be loved. You are teaching me that I came from a personwho is unlovable and wrong, and that I am somehow wrong, too. When you confide your hurt in my heart, you are storing up adult pain and robbing me of my childhood. You are taking away my belief that love is unconditional
and replacing it with a message that tellsme to become hard and not to love because I will get hurt and not be able to recover. You may not understand this today, and I am so small that you are not thinking about my future, but you are putting me at a greater risk of getting a divorce myself. At times you are risking my safety to fill a void in your heart. My safety is your job. Without you and your protection I am unshielded from the world. This will manifest in irrational fears for me, because I will stay in a state of fight or flight for most of my life. Someday this initial shock will wear off, but how you choose to parent me through this crisis
will never wear off. I will either feel your sense of selflessness, support and protection, or I will have a scar on my heart with a message that reads, quot;Good things happen to good people.I must be bad.quot; Thoughtfully, The Child of Divorce.
CANADA!USA! OH, HEY THERE.IT’S BEEN AWHILE, HOW ARE YOUR PROVINCES? OH, THEY GROW UP SO FAST.YOU KNOW, I GOT MY HANDS FULL WITH 10, I DON’T KNOW HOW YOU TAKE CARE OF 50 STATES.YEAH, YOU KNOW, IT’S NOT EASY, THE SOUTHERN ONES WENT THROUGH A REBELLIOUSPHASE. AND WHAT ABOUT THE ADOPTED ONES?OH, ALASKA AND HAWAII? YEAH, I HAVEN’T TOLD THEM YET, BUT I THINKTHEY’VE FIGURED IT OUT BY NOW.AND THE REALLY LOUD ONE?
TEXAS IS STILL TEXAS.OH, CANADA, WE SHOULD YOU KNOW, HANG OUT SOMETIME, MAYBE PLAY SOME BASEBALL PLAY SOME HOCKEY.WHAT? WHAT’S BASEBALL?PHONE RINGING OH, SORRY, I GOT TO GET THIS. OKAY.CHINA, BABY, HOW’S IT GOING? YES, I KNOW I OWE YOU A LOT OF MONEY.ALWAYS MAKING IT ABOUT MONEY. YOU KNOW WHAT, LISTEN.I WILL GET IT TO YOU TOMORROW. DO YOU HAVE LIKE FOUR TRILLION DOLLARSI COULD BORROW?
WHAT AM I SAYING, YOU’RE CANADA.OKAY, LISTEN. I WILL GIVE YOU MY WATCH UNTIL I CAN PAY.THAT’S RIGHT, YOU DID MAKE THIS. CHINA, YOU CAN’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO.OKAY, I WILL DO THAT, BYE. BESTIES, OH, HIDE ME.WHAT? OH COME ON, YOU GUYS HAVEN’TDATED SINCE â€˜76. I KNOW, BUT IT’S SO AWKWARD.WELL, I TOLD YOU TO BREAK UP WITH HIM IN PERSON, AND NOT OVER DECLARATION.COME ON, YOU CAN DO THIS. I’VE GOT SOME HOCKEY STUFF TO PURCHASE.OH, HI, USA, DIDN’T EVEN SEE YOU THERE,
WHICH IS WEIRD, BECAUSE YOU’VE PUTON A LOT OF LAND. HI, BRITAIN.YOU KNOW, I’VE JUST FELT SO FREE THE LAST FEW CENTURIES,WHAT WITH THE BREAKUP AND ALL, NEVER LOOKED BACK.YOU TRIED TO GET BACK TOGETHER IN 1812. YES, WELL, ANYWAY, I’VE JUST BEEN HAVINGSO MUCH SUCCESS LATELY, WITH THE BEATLES ANDHARRY POTTER AND DOWNTON ABBEY. I DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT US ANYMORE.THAT’S GREAT. TAKE ME BACK, PLEASE?BRITAIN IS IT ANOTHER MAN?
IS IT FRANCE?OH, GROSS, NO. SPEAKING FRENCH THEN WHAT IS IT?GIVE ME A REASON. OKAY, YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY?I WILL TELL YOU NORTH KOREA. HELLO FOREIGN SCUM.SPEAKING KOREAN YOU WANT TO SEE? OH!DO I OR DON’T I? JUST PAY ME SOME ATTENTION!OKAY, I WILL TELL YOU WHY. WHEN WE DATED, THE SUN NEVER SETON YOUR CHEATING. YOU MADE A PASS AT EVERY COUNTRY YOU SAW!AUSTRALIA, INDIA, BAHAMAS.
MMM, BAHAMAS.OKAY. AND THEN THERE’S JUST RESPECT, I CAN’TDATE A GUY THAT I’VE BEATEN IN WAR.OKAY, I WAS NOT TRYING MY HARDEST. DESPERATE, OKAY?WE BROKE UP AND YOU FOUND EVERY EXCUSE YOU COULDTO GET ME OVER, LIKE OH, USA, I’M HAVING A WAR,OH, COME HELP ME, OH, USA. I’M HAVING ANOTHER WAR, OH, I’M HAVINGAN OLYMPICS, COME DESTROY ME IN EVERY EVENT.OH.